Tuesday 21 June 2011

Girls Run The World

A lot of you might be familiar with the recent hit song by Beyonce (the title of this blog).

Video

It is the cry of one of the world's most powerful women. The cry that women now run the world. A valid cry some would argue. More and more evidence points towards the fact women are more competent, more capable, more organised, more responsible. Over the last 100 years or so women of the western world have proved themselves to be more than a match to men. Women have reclaimed the dignity they deserve from a society that has been so overly male dominated for so long. If you look at the current series of 'The Apprentice', for the first three weeks the women's team won. Now into the final eight contestants and 5 are women's, 3 are men. This is in the business world, a world particularly dominated by men, a world which panders to the male ego.

So why is it that in my church, the large majority of women are stay at home wives. The others would seemingly happily give up their job's to have children. Am I in a backward society filled with pushover women. Looking around I can't see a single pushover, these women are strong, responsible, talented, some of the best women I have ever met.

Beyonce screams of how women run the world, how men are relatively useless now and how women are now in control:
"Boy you know you love it
How we're smart enough to make these millions
Strong enough to bare the children
Then get back to business"
Now while Beyonce sings this is this really what she desires. I doubt it. Beyonce herself dates Jay-Z. One of the few people in the world richer and more powerful than her. She most definitely runs aspects of her world, but I don't imagine Jay-Z lets her run their relationship, I don't imagine she runs their world. And to be honest I don't think she would want to.

Beyonce wouldn't want to date a run who she runs, someone less powerful, less successful than her. That's why she dates Jay-Z. While she sings one thing her actions tell another.

Here's something controversial. Women don't want to run the world. If women run the world, men would become weak. Women would have to control, boss and molly cuddle men. Women don't want this. Women want real men and real men run their own world.

Many girls have a thing for 'the bad boy.' A bad boy is essentially someone who lives there own life, won't let a women tell him what to do and lives dangerously. Girls are attracted to aspects of his character, but are often left hurt by his callousness, his disregard of her when he gets bored. They are excited by his mission and his want to take risks, live dangerously.

Women don't want weak men, and a world run by women would lead to a generation of weak men. In church our men aren't weak. They work hard, take risks, lead families, make commitments, look after finances, romance, don't lust. In my church our men are real men. Then alongside these men, stood next to them are women. Their wives. The wives are fulfilled and completely equal to the man, yet at the same time are run by their men.

Real men need to lead. They need to lead their own lives, but also their families, their wives and children. To do this men need opportunities to lead, and in a world led by women, these opportunities would be diminished. Not all women want to be lead by a man, and for those that don't, lead away. But many women have given up on men due to the amount of weak, unpurposeful, sex-driven, lazy, commitmentaphobe men they have met.

Watch 'Don't tell the Bride.' A show about a man organising the wedding. The woman gets no say. She always thinks the man will mess it up, and is nearly always surprised by how well her man does and how well he knows her.

Real mean need to lead. Let men lead, we'll probably (can't speak for all men) step up and surprise you ;)

Women have always wanted equality, rightly so. Equality that doesn't discriminate. Equality is a right, but equality doesn't dismiss roles.

EDIT:

This is a great video to watch from the female perspective!

Thanks for reading and please post comments,

Davey

4 comments:

  1. Good blog mate, I think a massive factor in all this is the desire to submit to Christ as Lord.
    A man can only lead effectively when he fully submits to Christ, taking instruction from scripture on how to lead his wife and his family under Christ's authority. Without that he either becomes extremely chavanistic, domineering and unloving or he becomes totally lazy, weak and ineffective.
    A wife can only be lead by her husband if she too is being lead by Christ; submitting to Christ's authority first and foremost will mean she will want to be lead by her husband. If she doesn't submit to Christ then she either becomes like Beyonce, wanting to rule the world without God, or she caeses to want to fulfill her biblical role as a mum and a wife.
    When all parties are led by God, the biblical roles for men and women are perfect, and they work brilliantly because both man and women are seeking to help eachother to love God more, both desiring to be lead by him. Although of course there are daily struggles and problems.
    My point is that mostly, men and women are driven and focused and want to enjoy success in whatever they do, enjoying independence, relationship and equality; and rightly so! Men and women are both created in the image of God, perfectly equal just with different roles. However all these things are only truly complete when Jesus is Lord and it's him we are lead by.
    Tom
    Ephesians 5: 22 - 33

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  2. Glad I stumbled upon this blog- v interesting! I remember finding something a little bit unsettling about this song first time I heard it. It was like a battle of women against men.

    I used to think men made better leaders, I would say naturally that they do but working in the healthcare profession, which is female dominated this pre-conception has been challenged working with some adept and inspirational female leaders.

    I would however, argue that men thrive in leadership and women desire to be lead, particularly in relationships. In a broken world this is not played out perfectly but maybe this is where we can look to Jesus the author and perfector of our faith in learning how to love one another.

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  3. I would very much agree that women are brilliant leaders, but I think the big issue is roles.

    I think men need to lead things to feel like men. If men don't lead they often become apathetic, lazy and self-centered.

    On the other hand women lead well, but I don't think they have the same need to lead things.

    Women have discovered they are more than adept leaders, and as you say in some professions like healthcare it is dominated by women, but I think the effect this has on men needs to be carefully thought through. If women want good men they need to let them lead, not try and run the world.

    I think our desire as men is to lead and that desire for women is to be lead.

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  4. Well I personally can not wait until I can fufill my biblical role as a wife and mother, life waiting for that to happen is very tough. What do i do will my strong desire to lead until then? i should probably pray it out right? I guess i could always lead the kids work at church or a womans group where the men wont be threaten or their egos damaged in any way by a dangerous female leader.

    I'm so glad you are here davey to tell the internet what womens desire is.

    pub time soon me thinks.

    Meg x

    - just a thought, if women did rule the world their would be alot less war.

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